Go ahead. Kiss the girl…
Following the theme of my last post “The Power of a Kiss“, I really want to take a cold hard look into what makes kissing so irresistible.
Why is it part of the sexual experience? What is it about two people joining two parts of the body that in theory have no relation to relations an act we desire, crave and enjoy?
Again, the answer, as always is: biology.
Besides being a universal gesture of love and affection, smooching has its own field of study called philematology (who knew?!). The science of kissing offers pleasurable insights into the power of this romantic expression.
Kissing satisfies different kinds of hungers. In the body, a kiss triggers a cascade of neural messages and chemicals that transmit tactile sensations, sexual excitement, feelings of closeness, motivation and even euphoria (put down the pipe and wrap your lips around someone; you’ll get just as high).
Our lips are packed with sensitive nerve endings.
When humans kiss, the combined sensation of pressing nerve ending-rich lips together while smelling the other person caused the release of dopamine, the ”pleasure hormone“.
With all the varied components locking lips incorporates I have broken the biological elements of kissing down:
Better Make it Good. First Impressions Count!
One study found that 66% of women and 59% of men say the quality of the first kiss can make or break the relationship.
I gotta say, I can not disagree. Of all the men I have kissed (settle down people, I promise, it is not as many as you think) only ONE has “turned” me after a first horrible kiss. Actually, It wasn’t just a first kiss but two days of unappealing, sloppy, wet make out sessions. So, why did I go back for more? Turns out there is a reason – patience my friends, you shall find out, all in due time.
Conversely, I had ONE kiss that turned me from complete disinterest into an insane insatiable beast of lust. It really is quite amazing; the power of a first kiss!
Kissy is Sexy (And Can Lead to Sex!)
So, why did I go back for more despite a disappointing beginning? What about the wet slobbering mess of a smooch said give him another chance?.
According to Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher there is evidence that saliva has testosterone in it. Testosterone increases sex drive. “And there is evidence that men like sloppier kisses with more open mouth. That suggests they are unconsciously trying to transfer testosterone to stimulate sex drive in women.”
Ah-ha! that explains BOTH the awful and amazing first kiss scenarios! Because saliva increases sex drive, I was driven to go back for more! I guess all that wetness did the trick because the culprit of that first awful kiss IS one of the KEY men I have written about in this very blog.
(For the record, after those first two wet and wild days, he toned it down and I became a slave to his full lips. I will forever look back as he fades into the sunset and crave one last kiss.)
Kissing is Good for Your Health.
- An Indicator of Fertility
Studies by various researchers show that men may unintentionally but intuitively may be using saliva transfer to assess a woman’s fertility and estrogen cycle. While guys may not consciously be aware of it their bodies can detect these female biological functions. Crazy right?!
The hormones responsible for these seemingly psychic powers are one of the keys to our reproductive success and passing on our genes to the next generation. All of this is a massive indicator there is a strong link between swapping spit and evolution.
- Reducing Stress
This is a biggie and again a phenomenon I experienced first hand.
In an earlier post I wrote about the effects of semen as both preventing and alleviating depression in women. Now it turns out that kissing has a similar effect.
According to researchers, kissing produces many physical and emotional reactions and is a powerful blueprint of chemical attraction. Such intimate biology also can melt tension.
Amazingly the endorphins produced by kissing are 200 times more powerful than morphine!! What the what?
A quote from a research article states: “Great kissing can be like a meditation that focuses your attention to a pinpoint, quieting the buzz in your mind,” explains Davidson. “As the outside world dissolves, you’re whisked into a dimension filled with extraordinary sensation, emotion and responsiveness.”
A different dimension is right! I said earlier how I have had personally experienced the stress relieving effects of kissing. As some of you may have deduced from my blog I have been under, well lets just say it, a fucking boat load of stress. In nearly two years I have felt the tension of some hovering issue; these past 11 months being especially rancid.
Recently I was kissed. Or rather I kissed someone. This interaction and subsequent “make-out session” (gosh what is this 8th grade?) left me dizzy, light-headed and completely stress-free. The hole where a pit once fill with anxiety was replaced with euphoria.
I literally entered another dimension. It was friggin awesome. So what I needed. So, hmmm, satisfying (for the record this episode did not include sex, I am still holding out, just barely). Thanks man, I appreciate the break from reality. I think it lingered for a good four days or so. Apparently this fella is a fairly stellar kisser.
If all of that was not enough to convince you that kissing is actually good for your health then get ready to have your head blown.
Long term studies show: those who kiss their partner goodbye each morning live five years longer than those who don’t.
Yah, so if not for her guys do it for you! It will help you live longer.
That Spark. Kissing and Bonding.
First kisses can also be as memorable, if not more, than losing one’s virginity. When I read this I was astounded. Not by the biological fact of it but that I had felt it and thought I was crazy for feeling a kiss to be more intimate than sex. Turns out I am a total genius Joke.
The correlation between kissing and bonding have infiltrated nearly every section of this post so I will not go into much more detail.
I will reiterate what has already been proven time and again; kissing is linked to the production of the bond-forming hormone, oxytocin.
Other than those already discussed the sexes kiss for different reasons. Men kiss in order to initiate other intimate activities. Women kiss to get more intuitive information about the other person.
Further men tend to release more oxytocin during the act, making kissing a stronger bonding experience for them in comparison to women. Yep, turns out it’s the guys who get attached from a simple kiss. Who knew?
As you can see there is a lot more to kissing that just a kiss.
I leave you with a quote to make you salivate:
~ the audacious amateur blogger