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Is it possible to have a legitimate crush on a fellow blogger?
I am talking about someone you have never met, doesn’t live on the same continent as you, possibly not even in the same hemisphere.
This is someone who you have developed a modern, social media, e-relationships rapport with. This is an area that is still very much uncharted waters.
Add to all that the idea of a blog. Well some blogs; my blog. It is personal, sometimes painfully honest, brutally raw. It is full of snippets of your life, thoughts, ideas you specifically chose to share. It does not, by any means, paint a true picture of your whole self.
This same applies for the blogger being “crushed on”. Essentially, everything you find appealing about them is based on conjecture, chunks of their vast lives and the stories about WHO they are, what they are like based on what could very well be the musings of a 14-year-old girl from New Jersey.
So, what do you think? Is it possible to develop enough of a relationship as bloggers to grow actual feelings for each other? Is this the third installment of “Sleepless in Seattle“, blogs taking the role of e-mail to the revamped version, “You’ve Got Mail“?
Is the blogger crush possible?
This totally is just a question, not about me personally. Nope. Just looking for fellow bloggers thoughts on the matter.
Seriously!
~ the audacious amateur blogger 
It would be interesting to intellectually connect with a girl on blog…Supposing a chemistry has developed between us,all we can do thereafter is chatting off-blog,skype,etc. Then comes the distance formula,which makes everything look so impractical,and eventually all those feelings will be wiped away off my mind…For me,a crush is possible,but it will be temporary!
I agree. Distance… And just like chemistry. Skype, email, gchat… All great tools for interviewing keeping in touch etc. but… There is something to be said for good old fashioned biological, pheromone induced physical chemistry.
So, if meeting in person is impossible or impractical a crush is… Fine and fun but like you said, time-stamed as well
I really want someone to say who their blog crush is … *anxiously waits* :p
So would I!
But like I said, I was just asking out of pure curiosity. Not like I have one or anything.
Though I have never hidden my feelings for Neil, of my pretzel logic
he knows I adore him
Fall in blogger crush love with him too:
http://ngtolentino.wordpress.com/
I have
Really? Care to share the details??
I wouldn’t say “crush”, but feelings of some kind yes (at least for me)… Certainly we never know for sure who (or what) is at the other end of the wire, but I sense some kind of new form of expression (electronic voice?) that surpasses other forms of art (especially in blogs)… and I do believe most everyone would agree that we humans are susceptible to having feelings for each other (in and through our voices).
The trouble is differentiating the genuine and the not-genuine…
Seems to me that’s the whole draw of this blogging thing — only it’s so new that we’re still struggling to see it, define it, adjust to it. So crush? Probably not a good idea (when the electricity goes out, so does the connection). Feelings? Yes.
…just a thought
M
hmmm, lotta different ideas and thoughts reading your response.
I am going to say that by crush, the feelings are not serious, they are like Disney feelinfgs. I know they aren’t real. They are a fairytale, but… it is still fun to think about meeting “prince charming”
SO yah, im not like putting stock in these emotions!
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We are social animals, and the very act of writing and reading blog(s) is a social activity. So it only makes sense that there be some erotic quality to it now and then.
Well said!
I guess the key is just to remember it is “Internet” social. So, walls, there are always walls.
While stuck in squid preparation hell, I had time to ponder this; I think a blogger crush is very possible especially if the blog is one of the more personal ones. My question back would be, say you did have a blogger crush, what then?
I guess ii’d like to know if he felt then same. if so, and proved I could trust him, take if off-blog and start a dialogue there.
The stunningly beautiful Italian actress, Sophia Loren, once said that being a sex symbol was “half about what you’ve got and half about what people imagine you’ve got.” Having a crush follows the same logic, so it is quite possible to take the snippets of information and imagine the rest. And as Strange Tripster says, the fantasy is usually much better than the reality (dirty laundry, being grumpy after a difficult day at work etc.)
def. which is why I actually made it a personal rule NOT to fantisize, or think too much about people in the “real world” that I had crushes on, because, well, a crush is like the penny of emotions, some people don’t even keep them, or if they do, wait, save them till they have enough value to buy something valuable with them
Oh yes, definitely is. Just massively impractical.
lol. yes. it is, but isn’t that half the fun
Sure, one can have a blogger crush. The thing to remember is that the fantasy is usually better than the reality.
Yes, This is true. Which is why the ‘blogger crush” I think needs to be evaluated. Like figure out if the feeling is mutual, if it is, explore it more. If not, or if you really don’t care to find out…fantasize away!
It’s a thought-provoking question, because while the answer is YES, it’s the question within the question that’s even more curious: what does one do with a real feeling like that when it could be prompted by a very unreal source?
I think. EIther leave it be. A fantasy, something that is a fun thing you can hold onto in your subconscious. You can explore his feelings and if he feels the same, take it offline and see where it goes, or move on I guess… those would be the options I think are available, but let me know if you come up with others!
Sure it is. You trying to tell me something? mwah and wink wink.