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WARNING: EXPLICIT MATERIAL; MOM TURN BACK NOW, THIS IS ONE OF THOSE “I DID NOT NEED TO KNOW THAT” POSTS. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!
Get this, some women don’t like sex. Friggin nuts! I know!
They don’t enjoy it, don’t come from it, some don’t even get ANY pleasure from it. Again, friggin nuts!
Inspired by light research and MANY conversations with MANY women of various backgrounds I have put together a list of 7 reasons women do not like sex. Again, I want to make it clear that this list was compiled primarily based on what I have deduced from personal observations.
7 Reasons why some women don’t like sex:
1. They don’t reach orgasm from intercourse or have never reached orgasm at all. Often these women do not know their bodies well enough to know how to reach orgasm (ahem, masturbation, it’s not just for men).
2. It hurts (this is often due to the sheer misfortune that their bodies were designed in ways that make sex painful in many positions if not all.)
3. They haven’t been with a man who has proper technique (sorry guys, sex is the same as any skill, it requires effort).
4. They are uptight. They are unable to relax enough during the act. This may be due inexperience, body issues, any of a variety of reasons.
5. Grew up with values that demonized sex creating guilt bout doin’ it.
6. Lack of trust. Experiencing orgasm with a man does cause a release of “bonding” hormones which by default can make one vulnerable, relinquish some “power”. Eddie Murphy described this as well as I’ve ever heard in his stand-up routine, ”Raw“:
”Once you make a woman come REAL hard…once you make a woman say oooh, no matter how bad you fuck up… no matter what you do, as long as you say I’m sorry, she will listen to your story…. as soon at you make that noise your relationship will change …a man can act crazy once you go oooh… Y’all put up with all kinds of crazy shit….I got a friend, got busted in his house, in his bed where him and his wife sleep with another woman, fuckin… women walks inside and see her man in the bed fuckin…man sees his wife, chases her down the hallway buck naked with a rock hard dick sayin ”I’m sorry”….”ok fine yes, we fucked, I fucked her…yes I did…I made love to you and if your gunna let fuck get between our love”… OOOOH”
7. Have not felt a strong enough attraction partner. 3rd Millennium Men describes the importance of gaining female attraction. The expression “The Brain Is Women’s Largest Erogenous Zone” is no joke and has scientific evidence to back it up.
So, if you are not wet, not sitting in a pool of your own pussy juice cause you are so turned on you could literally come from a simple touch, then STOP. Find a man who passes what I call the “twitch test“; if he makes your pussy twitch, you are primed to enjoy the final act.
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So, why do women still engage in coital relations despite their lack of interest in fucking? A number of reason including but not limited to: to please their partner, enjoy the intimate aspects of sex, or possibly have some sort of self-esteem complex where they equate getting a guy to bang them with I’m wanted or possibly they are still new to the game and still “feeling” their sexuality out.
Having heard these tales, the seemingly prolific problem of having and enjoying good sex; it has made me truly, seriously, down to my core (and clit) THANKFUL that I love, enjoy and come from fucking.
I can not imagine life without the joy of banging. If I never get to have it again, then I am ever grateful for having known it. I love everything about it, from the intimacy to the pleasure, from the freedom and excitement of exploring another side of yourself you hadn’t known existed till you were naked with a man being ravaged.
I love how wet I get, feeling a cock seamlessly slide in and out of me, the burst of pleasure that comes with each self lubricated thrust. I love discovering new and fun ways to do it. I enjoy awakening the normally dormant animalistic part of me that turns you from a “lady” into a hungry, growling savage ready to devour and be devoured.
All of it. The whole act culminating in the grand finale. That moment you first detect that oh so good burn deep inside that tells you, you are going to come. That now, nothing can stop it, save (possibly) a catastrophic natural disaster, orgasm is inevitable.
I love the rise of that burn growing with every plunge, with every touch, as it spreads, taking over your whole pussy, your clit swollen and ready to burst. Then that moment, that final trust that pushes you over the edge. I love taking in every drop of goodness until you are shaking, quaking, dripping wet and overcome by mind erasing euphoric pleasure that spread from the epicenter of your pussy to the tip of your toes to the top of your head.
I love the feeling of my pulsing pussy gripping a cock from the inside out.
Of course not all orgasms are quite that intense. Like men (so I’ve heard), there are varying levels of climaxing. What I described requires a considerable amount of time and effort; for both parties. Sometimes you just don’t got time for a that. Sometimes, like a fine wine, you need a single glass to satisfy a craving, a taste is just enough.
Again, I must reiterate my thanks to God that I whole heartedly enjoy sex.
Mentoring females on how they too can experience great sex is a mission I take very seriously.
There are many out there that need to be schooled, need to understand how they as individuals can take matters into their own hands. I mean this literally.
Getting a firm grasp on what gets you off without all the aspects of sex you can’t control gives you the power to attain the same pleasure while with a partner. If you can’t or don’t know what floats your boat how you ever gunna enjoy the ride?
If you are a woman who has trouble enjoying sex we are on the brink of a New Year; Go on and add “learning to love sex” to that old list of resolutions!
Whatever method you chose, I seriously advise making having great sex a priority. You can start by picking up a book such as Kim Marshall’s, “The Great Sex Secret: What Satisfied Women and Men Know That No One Talks about”. Or go the gold, pick up a giant vibrator, go to TOWN on yourself.
How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice!
~ the now pretty turned on audacious amateur blogger
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*Note: This post in no way is meant to nor promotes promiscuity. A loving relationship is your best bet at enjoying sex, unless of course you’re not really into the guy in which case get the hell outta dodge and find someone who really tickles your fancy 
**On Size: “Does size matter?”. THE question. I cannot speak for all woman-kind, only what I feel based on my personal experiences. Does size matter? Yes and no. It can help for sure if technique is lacking just out of pure mechanics. However, I have found that technique and physical attraction are much more important, stronger contributors to the “joy of sex” than size.
There are of course caveats to this belied. Say we are talking micropenis here. No, it may be impossible to reach insane deep orgasm from sex alone. However, that does not mean that it can’t be reached. Manual stimulation, toys, a whole industry of products can get you there - hey where there is a will there’s a way!
Lastly, I want to add that the ideal, in my experience is: size + technique + attraction = the trifecta to lasting amazing sex. It is rare, like the Sasquatch of lovers, but it is out there. Good luck
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Always appreciate supporting materials.
Go forth and orgasm women!
Hey btw what exactly does an orgasm feel like? For a male its clearly a release because we literally are releasing matter, but for a girl? Can you try to explain?
Ok, cmon. How can i answer that. I think what i described in this post is about as close to it as i can get. from what i have read, in science journals, men and women basically have the same physical actions happen during orgasm. like contractions of pleasure in our… ya know, except with men they are not as obvious bc they happen so close together it can feel like (and i dont know bc im not a man) one action. Coming, with women the contractions are slower and last longer and can go on… for as long as the right places are being stimulated… for me 20 min. 20 min of what you feel for.. 5 seconds…and that causes the hormones that get naturally released in your brain to keep flowing as well and after a while you are technically stoned bc those are the same hormones that get released when you do coke. 20 min of them flooding through you plus the pleasure that keeps on going, and your muscles are shaking.
It feels…. like that. Sometimes. other times, its jsut like a man, quick a few short ooh ahh then done, 10 seconds. all depends.
At least you are honest about wanting sex.
From “at least” I estimate you do not approve of my post.
That’s ok. You also displayed dignity with looking at the positive.
We all want sex. Even women who don’t “classically” love sex. They still desire it from the caveman, humans need to procreate in order to ensure continuation of the species place.
Everyone wants sex.
I understand your misunderstanding, what I meant actually is compared to most girls you are honest about it. It was a good thing.
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“undercover year long romance w a coworker in which we spent the better part of each day writing to each other via IM sexual fantasy’s”
that’s how me and my exwife got started. when they let her go from the company, the let her know that her email was monitored. we put Penthouse letters to shame!
“IN committed loving relationships with good giving men who literally have tried anythjng and everything to help w the… Ka-boom. ”
this.. is.. odd. very odd. aside from a sexual trauma, i cannot imagine how it be impossible to get the Kboom if the guys were really trying at the foreplay? i certainly hope the guys aren’t being overly ‘robotic’.
“Maybe I’m just “good at finding a good fuck” in a crowd,”
hehe.. well you did say you seem to be able to pick out the BiggusDickus in the crowd
“not attracted to people who don’t look at me or take me seriously – who take my pleasure as well as theirs seriously. ”
THIS! is probably one of the most important parts. you seem to be very adept at separating the pretenders and the Tucker Max’s. a lot of women sadly do not, and hookup culture tells them that they should just jump into bed to figure things out after the fact.
“I know my body well enough to know how to get off”
this always helps too. my exwife told me that her previous BF’s didn’t last too long so she learned what she needed to cum quick. this turned out to be a pleasant bonus since i had plenty of attempts for multiples with her. tho being that she was overly sensative afterwards, i could rarely give her more than 2 before she shut down for cuddles. which was ok. because i meant i got a bj finish FTW!!!
“Don’t all guys wanna like, appear like they know what their doing? Isnt it like a macho thing, gettin a girl to cum?”
Depends. That’s if the guy actually gives a damn what the woman thinks. In this combat culture now, a lot of guys get jaded, and it’s just for the pussy pickup and pump. Figure if you have to go to such great lengths and effort just to get a woman to come home with you (multiple rejections, buying drinks, enduring inane babble, listening to chic-talk and jersey shoreisms and small talk, passing shit tests left right center).. then you’ve already done most of the work, now the chick is just a place to unload and kick her out of the apartment since you’re empty. This chick isn’t your girlfriend, you just met her, she’s nobody.. just nut in her and you’re done.
This should serve as a warning to hookup culture.
Guys want to appear all macho and show they know what they’re doing when and ONLY when:
a) They actually care about the woman
or
b) The woman is HIGH value and worthy of impressing in hopes of locking her down
most bar skanks do not fit either criteria. Ergo – Pump & Dump.
It’s where we live.
As i read most of the list, internally i laughed a bit.. and wanted to write:
#8 – Because you’re not sleeping with M3.
There is still a part of me inside that wants to put women’s lack of orgasms or hate of sex squarely on their shoulders and lay it at their feet.
Of course its just a generalization.. but considering i’m from Toronto, i can safely make this one here within my fair city. Women deserve the orgasms (or lack thereof) they get. If they continuously choose to go with men based solely on attraction cues alone, they line up to get slaughtered by only those who have perfected the art of making the vag twitch just right.
I’m not here to rescue women from bad choices by trying to out compete professional PUA’s to give women spine shattering orgasms. Girls need to start taking responsibility for choosing the guys that only want to use them as cum dumpsters rather than turning sex into an art form of pleasure and passion to be savored.
They need to figure that out on their own.
ps-your descriptives of sex gave me wood. damn you woman.. im hiding under my desk at work now >:#
You are… Hilarious. From your instinctual thought of adding “havent slept with me yet” to having to hide under the table cuz u got hard at work
(which btw used to be something I got very good at during an undercover year long romance w a coworker in which we spent the better part of each day writing to each other via IM sexual fantasy’s etc. so, yea, I’m gunna pay my own back there and say, I know how to write to turn a man – and myself btw, on)
On your faulting the women for choosing the wrong men – I agree in some cases but honestly, most of what I’ve heard, this problem, is with women I know IN committed loving relationships with good giving men who literally have tried anythjng and everything to help w the… Ka-boom.
I can’t speak to why girls who sleep around dont enjoy sex, or even know if they don’t. I personally, havent been the most chaste person ever… And always (k 99% of the time) enjoy a night of passion.
Maybe I’m just “good at finding a good fuck” in a crowd, or maybe I take everyone I get w seriously, and am not attracted to people who don’t look at me or take me seriously – who take my pleasure as well as theirs seriously.
Or like I said, I know my body well enough to know how to get off.. And feel attracted to men when I sleep w them
Don’t all guys wanna like, appear like they know what their doing? Isnt it like a macho thing, gettin a girl to cum? I haven’t encountered many cum bucketers…(except my ex towards the end of the relationship bc.. He really didn’t care at that point, till I called him out on it, played a lil dominatrixy as punishment and found out he was into that shit! – light domination, like “lay there, don’t move, while I ride your cock, and If I feel ur getting close to coming I’m gunna stop – I control your come now!” fun for a bit, not really my thing generally)
I can see the sense in this.
All 7 points make sense. And I have come across some chics who had some of those issues as to why they don’t like sex.
As for being uptight (mentioned in point 2), I usually allay that problem with some great foreplay and mental mastery.
Lol. Mental mastery. Love that. I remember the 30 something guys I worked with out of college talk about how “dead fish” was the worst.
I think you have a good strategy, warm her up. Get her comfortable and she’s all yours
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Size matters. But the borders are vastly apart, so *most* men don’t have to worry. And yeah, to the women afraid of their own bodies and of pleasure in general, go buy a dildo and drink some wine in the bathtub.
Sex ain’t dirty, baby. Your posts are amazing
ahahaha, sounds like a nice night to me!
Thanks so much for the love
Yea.. ok, size matters, and I should have and will add that ultimately Size+technique+attraction = trifecta of pleasure.
take away one, you take a lil bit of potential pleasure away, but just a lil
#5 When I was first having sex, that was a thought of mine, but now being old (er), wise (r), and more experienced I am focused on making sure she is having a good time.
#7 either Eddie Murphy or Richard Pryor.
Size only matters if you care about such things, in all things, from penis, boobs, butts, cars, and so on.
Continue your good work of educating women about pleasure and maybe the world will be a happier place.
I def think it was Eddie Murphy, Raw, but can’t find the evidence to back this up. Still searching.
I think we all went through #5 at some point, in the beginning. I remember a guy saying “just relax”. Lol.
Thanks, will do. Missionary for moving past just missionary